Let Go of Anger and Anxiety Before Sleep | Calm Female Voice, Nature Sounds, 2 Hours (Video)

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Before you begin

Hello, and welcome. Before anything else, let's take care of a few small things that make tonight a little easier.

Put your phone face down, and turn the volume low, so nothing catches you off guard. Then you're free to stop thinking about everything else for now.

Lie down somewhere safe, somewhere you know well, and away from stairs and water. Please don't listen to this while you're driving, cooking, or using machinery.

This is relaxation, not medical treatment, and it can't take the place of someone who knows your history.

If worry or anger keeps weighing on you, or starts affecting your sleep, eating, work, or safety, please talk with a doctor or someone you trust.

If you feel unsafe right now, or you have thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else, please contact emergency services or a crisis line where you live before you try to rest.

Settling and breath

Notice where your body meets the bed or the floor. Let yourself be held there. If anything feels uncomfortable, you can shift gently at any time.

Tonight isn't a test. Nothing here has to go perfectly, and you're allowed to drift in and out.

If the room is noisy, let ordinary noise fade into the background. If you hear an alarm, or someone needs you, take care of that first. You don't have to fight the rest of it.

Okay, that's all the setup we need. Now let's slow things down, one breath at a time.

Let your eyes soften, or close them gently, if that feels right to you. They can simply rest, with nothing else to do.

Breathe in through your nose, as though you're smelling something warm. Then let the breath go, slowly, through your mouth.

Don't try to make it deep. Let it be a little slower than your usual breath, and that's all.

Breathe in slowly now... one... two... three... four.

Let the breath in finish on its own, and don't hold on to it at all.

Now let it out, slowly... one... two... three... four... five... six.

Some people find that slow breathing helps them feel calmer, though results vary. For now, just let your breath be simple and easy.

Breathe in again, gently... one... two... three... four.

And out, slowly... one... two... three... four... five... six... seven... eight.

Notice that the out breath tends to finish on its own, if you let it. You don't have to push the air out at all. If your breathing ever feels tight or dizzy, just let it return to its own rhythm.

Naming the anger

Now let's gently look at what's been sitting with you today, even the parts you'd rather skip.

Maybe there's anger still around. Maybe it's aimed at someone, or at yourself, or at nobody in particular.

You don't have to make it neat or polite. Just notice where it lives in your body, maybe in your chest, your throat, or your stomach.

Some of that anger may be completely justified. Someone may have been unfair, careless, or unkind to you, and it's fair to feel it.

If that's true, your anger may be pointing to something. It can mean that something mattered to you, and that a line may have been crossed.

You don't need to pretend it didn't happen. You also don't need to decide anything about it tonight.

Let the anger be what it is, for now. It can sit here beside you without taking over the whole room.

For some people, anger can feel like a guard at the door, sometimes protecting something tender underneath. You can thank it for the effort, even if you don't need it right now.

For some people, anxiety and anger show up together, and it makes sense if both are here tonight.

You can greet them both, the way you'd welcome a tired friend who has stopped by. Then you can let them rest.

You've named it, and that's plenty for this part. We can leave it right here.

Letting go in the body

Let's begin with your hands, since hands can hold tension without asking you first. There's no rush, so take your time with them.

Make your hands into soft fists, not tight ones. Keep them like that for one slow breath, and feel where the effort is.

Now let them open slowly, fingers loose, palms resting. Feel the difference, even if it's small, and let it spread a little up your arms.

Next, your jaw. Let your teeth part a little, and let your tongue settle low.

A lot of us carry tension right there, in the hinge of the jaw, without ever noticing it.

Let the jaw get a little heavier with each out breath, as if gravity is doing the work for you.

Now your forehead. Let the small lines between your eyebrows soften, slowly, as if a warm hand is gently smoothing them out.

Let your eyes feel soft and warm, and notice the room just as it is.

Next, your shoulders. Lift them gently toward your ears, only as high as is comfortable, then let them fall, slowly, like a heavy coat being taken off.

Feel the weight of your arms settling into the bed, or the floor, or the cushions beneath you.

Let your chest soften too. Let the breath come up from low down, without you steering it.

Nothing is asked of you right now except this slow letting go, and it's already happening.

Forgiveness, if it comes

Forgiveness is optional, and it doesn't have to show up tonight, or ever, if that's what feels honest.

You don't have to forgive anyone in order to rest. You can hold on to the hurt for now and still let yourself settle.

If a softer feeling does come, let it arrive on its own. Don't go looking for it, and don't push it along.

Maybe a small thought shows up, the kind that sounds like this: I wish that hadn't happened to me. That's a true feeling, and it's enough for tonight.

There's no scorecard for forgiveness. It might soften over time, or it might not move at all, and either way is all right.

Nobody needs to be contacted, excused, or made up with tonight. That decision can wait, and it's yours to make.

For a little while, you can set the whole story down, and simply rest here with yourself, as you are.

Now think of a mistake you've made, one that still stings a little. If nothing comes to mind, or it feels too heavy to look at, you can skip this part and simply rest.

You don't need to argue the case again tonight. Just notice that you're still carrying it, and that it's heavy.

Back then, you may well have been doing the best you could with what you knew and what you had left.

Now imagine a friend who made that same kind of mistake. What would you say to them?

Maybe you'd tell them that mistakes happen, that they learned something, and that they're still worth caring for.

Now try offering yourself that same kindness, quietly, in your own words, even if it comes out clumsy. Just say it once, the way you'd talk to someone you love.

If the words feel awkward, that's fine. Let them be simple, and let them be yours.

You can learn from a mistake without punishing yourself for it every night. Those two things really aren't the same.

Let the old guilt loosen its grip, a little at a time, the way knots do when you stop pulling.

The worry notebook

Picture a small notebook resting on the table beside you, the kind with a soft cover. It can be paper, or just an idea, whichever feels right.

Tomorrow's problems can go in there. Most everyday worries can wait on those pages, and you don't have to solve them now. If something is urgent or unsafe, that one needs help now, not a notebook.

Picture yourself writing the first worry down. Just the name of it, and that's all for now.

Then close the notebook gently, set it down on the table, and let it wait there for now.

Writing a worry down doesn't mean it's solved. It just means it has a safe place to rest for now.

Notice that the notebook can hold more than one worry, and that none of them need opening tonight.

If a new worry shows up, write that one down too. It's allowed to take its turn later.

Worry often feels urgent at this hour, and most of it can keep until daylight. If something feels unsafe or urgent, don't wait for morning. Reach out to someone who can help now. Worry can feel enormous in the dark, and smaller once the light comes back.

Tomorrow you may have a clearer head, and maybe a plan you don't have tonight.

Small mercies

Now look back over today and find one good thing, however modest. It doesn't need to impress anyone.

Maybe it was a warm drink, a song that came on at the right moment, or a kind word from someone. Let one of those come to mind, whichever arrives first.

Let it come back to you, and notice what it felt like in your chest. Let it be a little warm again.

Even if today was hard, something small may have gone right. Let that count for something.

You don't have to write a list or grade the day. Just keep that one good thing close, the way you'd keep a stone in your pocket.

So let that small good thing rest beside you.

Now let's picture tomorrow, just a little, and keep the picture simple and bright.

Imagine the first hour after you wake. Let it be calm and unhurried, with time for a glass of water and a few slow breaths.

Maybe you make a cup of tea, open a window, or stand in the light for a minute. Nothing about it has to be just right.

If there's a conversation waiting for you, you get to choose when, and whether, to have it. It can feel easier in daylight, after a good night's rest.

There's no need to plan every detail now. A little space for tomorrow is enough, and that's enough for now.

A calm morning doesn't need to be perfect. It just needs a little room to breathe, and maybe a bit of sunlight.

You might hear birds outside, or notice how the air feels on your face.

Tomorrow is already waiting, and it doesn't need you to hurry toward it. It will still be there when you're ready.

Halfway: the phone can rest

If your phone is nearby, now is a good time to set it aside. You've come a long way already, and the rest of the night doesn't need a screen.

Place it face down across the room, with the screen dark and the volume low enough that the sounds can still reach you. Let the sounds keep you company for the rest of the night.

You can always pick it up in the morning, and it will still be there, waiting politely.

Let's do one more slow release now, a little slower than the first one. There's nothing to get right.

Start at the top of your head. Let your scalp soften, and let any tightness drift down and away from you.

Let your face loosen, cheeks and lips included. Notice how light it can feel when you stop holding it all together.

Let your neck rest, heavy and supported, and let each breath move through it easily. Nothing needs to hold your head up now except the pillow or cushion.

Your breath doesn't need your help now. It already knows the way.

Now your back, the middle and then the lower part, sinking into whatever is holding you up. Let it grow heavier with every out breath.

Let your middle be soft and easy. There's nothing to brace for.

Let your legs grow heavy, from the hips down to the feet. Each breath can let them sink a little more.

Your feet can be loose now, toes relaxed, heels resting wherever they happen to land.

Letting the day go

Now imagine the whole day as a long hallway behind you. Walk back through it slowly, only as far as feels easy, and then gently close the door.

Some rooms in that hallway can stay open, and some are better left closed for tonight. Both choices are fine.

You don't have to tidy every room before you rest. You can leave the lights off and simply walk away.

Let the day go, bit by bit, the way a tide slowly pulls back from the sand. Nothing is forced, and there's no hurry about it.

With each out breath, a little more of the day can drift away, without any effort from you.

There's nothing left to finish tonight. The day is done, and you're allowed to be done too.

If sleep doesn't come, that's still all right. Resting quietly still counts, even when your mind is busy.

And try not to check the clock. Numbers have a way of turning into one more thing to worry about.

Try not to chase sleep. Chasing it can make everything feel more urgent than it needs to be.

Instead, let your attention rest on the breath, or on the sounds in the room, or on nothing much at all.

If thoughts start racing, return softly to the out breath and count it... one... two... three... four... five... six.

If your mind wanders, that's what minds do. You can bring it back gently, as often as you need to, without any fuss.

Nobody is keeping score tonight. Lying still is a good thing to do, whatever happens next.

Kindness for others

Now think of someone, or even a pet, who makes your days a little easier.

It could be a neighbor, a coworker, or someone you only met once. Picture them resting somewhere safe, too.

You don't need to contact them tonight. Just let a small wish for their comfort drift by, the way you'd give a quiet nod to someone across a room.

And if you can, offer that same wish to yourself. You belong in this circle of care, too.

Kindness doesn't need to be dramatic to count. A quiet little thought can be just as real, and you can come back to it tomorrow.

Let your kindness rest here, in your chest, where it's easy to find.

We're nearly at the end now.

If you're still awake when the voice stops, that's perfectly fine. You're welcome to stay right here, exactly as you are.

Nothing needs finishing or fixing, and calm can arrive whenever it likes. The day has already done what it could.

The anger can rest now, and it's still allowed to be there. The worries can wait in their notebook, and your body can feel heavy and warm.

Take one more slow breath, an easy one. In, and then out, and let it be enough.

Now I'll stop talking. The sounds will stay with you for a while, and then they will fade. There is nothing more to do.